Do you know your own limits? How can you tell when you’ve reached them? When (and how) do you know when you’ve reached them?
I’ve been pondering these things closely for the last few months because I’m afraid I’ve reached a number of limits recently and even stepped over a few either by accident or on purpose.
These aren’t moral or ethical boundaries (so I’m not doing anything illegal) but rather internal metrics and personal systems that help me manage all that I do. They are relational boundaries related to agreements, covenants, or promises (call them what you will) that X, Y, and Z will not happen while A, B, and C will.
One of the #1 ways that I know that I’ve crossed my limits or have started to seriously bump up against them is simply how I feel during the day. Energy is one of those things that’s most readily apparent for me and the lack of it consistently is a tell tale sign.
This is more about mental energy than anything else as I’m able to successfully complete a full day of work like nothing ever happened but as I close down shop I begin to realize that I have nothing left to give for the important efforts toward processing the days events.
Or, if I’m easily distracted and have little energy for ideation and vision casting I know that I’ve reached my limit.
The challenge, of course, is what one should do about it. It’s not easy to simply “turn off” major projects or relationships like you do an application on your iPhone (although I wish it was that easy).
So how do you know when you’ve reached your own limits? Who’s available to tell you the hard truth that you have, in fact, passed them and you’re in dangerous territory?