Goal setting is so powerful. It really does separate those that wish and hope for success and things to happen and those that actually see it realized.
Over a year ago some of my mentors challenged me (again) to spend time public speaking and working on my communication skills. I acquiesced and made it part of my yearly goals. These had to be, according to them, not just meetups which I do often and am very comfortable at doing, but on stage in front of many more people with a prepared talk.
They were attempting to teach me a few things about preparation, pacing, and even breathing that would help me become a better and more effective communicator everywhere I went, not just in front of live and large audiences.
Well, it worked. Last week I had an incredible time at the Savvy Blogging Summit and tomorrow I fly out to keynote at the Influence Conference. Yes, goal setting works. Trust me on this. Not only have I become (slightly) better at public speaking but it’s impacted my writing and even my business skills in very large ways.
But one of the things that I can’t seem to get over is the fact that I’m still terribly nervous about it every single time. I’m not sure if this ever goes away and there are those that tell me that “it’s a good thing” but I always want to say:
Being nervous might be a good thing but I hate it… and I’m not sure it’s entirely necessary.
But I typically nod my head and sip some more of the drink I’m babysitting. I’ve tried most if not all of what people have recommended and nothing seems to help.
Are there things in your life that you consistently do that still make you nervous every time you do it? How do you cope, how to you manage it, and how do you leverage for your “performance,” whatever that is?
Is it really a good thing or is it just a necessary evil?
I always end up enjoying the talk and I’m always glad that I did it but the feeling of vomit in my mouth isn’t attractive and isn’t entirely welcome.